Every time someone recognized me in the bathroom line, they'd say, in hushed tones: "Are you doing a workshop, here... please say yes!"
I knew they weren't asking for knot-tying advice; they had the same question as every straight, Ozzie-&-Harriet parent does: Will my lover and I ever have sex again?
A lot of new moms and dads feel like they're in a time warp with their kids, with no hope of romance or erotic spontanaeity returning.
Well, thanks to my new acquaintance, Nicole Chaison, who edits the super-cool parenting magazine HausFrau, the sex-for-parents workshop (or should we call it a marathon?) can begin.
HausFrau deals with visceral family challenges: head lice, (best comic book ever on the subject) traveling with kids, and of course, sex. Nicole sent me letters from her readers, who asked— without flinching— about loaded post-natal topics like low libido, boring sex, anal sex, privacy, children storming your bedroom door, and whether labor and orgasms are related. We're publishing my answers in HausFrau's next issue!
I was inspired by one of the mother-to-be's who asked, "Can I keep doing one of my favorite sexual activities without hurting the baby?" She means fisting. Of course, this woman hasn't given birth yet, so she has yet to find out that her new favorite activity is going to be falling to sleep for a thousand years.
Meanwhile, here's a preview of what we talked about, from my latest In Bed audio show, where I shared a few of Nicole's letters, and my responses:
Don't forget, you can send your confidential questions and feedback about the show to firstname.lastname@example.org. (Episode 351, August 1, 2008)
Photo Credit: The Brady Bunch Movie (not the series, the movie!) is one of the best gay stoner sex-positive movies ever. Ever.