0ne of the great misunderstood characters of the world is the woman-loving fist fucker. Her—or his— sexual technique of inserting her whole hand in her lover's cunt is considered physically impossible by some, and bizarre to others.
To those uninitiated to the pleasures of handballing, I invite you in. Don't be ashamed of your sexual inexperience; just remedy it. For those of you who are veteran pussy handlers, grab your lube, because we're about to go public.
If you get aroused through vaginal penetration, you will like being fisted. But if you have never been truly thrilled by fucking, fisting may turn the key. If you are partial to mindshattering orgasms, fisting is a one-way ticket. If you always wanted to have a girl in the palm of your hand—well, here you go.
Fisting, if you had to compare it to anything else, is a natural extension of finger fucking. One day your cunt is hungrier than usual, and three fingers just aren't enough. Not four or five, either.
Putting your curled-up hand in your lover's vagina is intimate. You are all the way inside of your lover; her body is wrapped around your fist like a cocoon. You can feel every tremor originating from her cunt, her ass, and her womb— and she can feel every tiny movement your fingers make. Just twisting your wrist is like the earth moving inside her. If this sounds romantic, you're right. Fisting is incredibly romantic.
Now that we've established the pleasure principle, let's look at some of the misunderstandings.
Vaginal fisting is a whole different activity than anal fisting. The lining of your anus and rectum are very delicate, and while the vagina is not made of steel, it is a tough old broad by comparison.
The anxiety about anal sex often focuses on the possibility of infecting a cut or scratch with feces, but the vagina presents a completely different environment. What this means is that some of the precautions one would normally take with any kind of ass fucking are not relevant to vaginal fisting.
It is not necessary to cut and file your fingernails. It's common sense to keep your claws curled under, whether you're using one finger or five. Wash your little paws like any decent lover would, and if you're worried about infection, or your fingertips getting pruny from the wet heat of your lover's cunt, use a pair of elegant, black, surgical gloves. They're thin enough that you can feel everything, and yet you'll both be protected. I actually like these better than skin, they're so smooth and buttery.
Another myth is that fisting is an S/M activity. Please. Anything can be eroticized by an S/M approach or attitude, but simply lying back and taking it does not make one a "bottom" any more than fucking your lover makes you a "top." A fisting has more in common with petting below the waist than it does with a good whipping.
Continued in Susie Sexpert's Lesbian Sex World, "Fisting"
Photo: is cropped. Full photo by Morgan Gwenwald, from "Nothing But the Girl."