Susie Bright's Journal

Alex Anderson Woulda Loved This... A Day of the Dead Tribute!

 

 

Alex Anderson Obit.

Diary of a Porn Clerk, Christian Swingers, The New Chastity Belt

Susie Does the Erotic Forensics on:

The Chastity Belt Makes a Comeback

Onward Christian Hedonists: The Evangelical Sex Revolution

Nostalgia for Dirty Old Bookstores

Diary of a Porn Clerk

Sex Junkie Confessions and Rebuttals

Are You a Sex Addict— or an Abstinence Devotee? Is there another option?

Can Masturbation Save Men from Prostate Cancer?

What Kind of a Man Becomes a Porn Star?

The G Spot Special— Everything There is To Be Known

 

Season 8 also features:

48 episodes, 24 hours of audio, $21.95

Listen to all 48 episodes of the eighth season of In Bed with Susie Bright.

 

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Jamie Gillis' Last Interview, the Child Sex Panics, The DC Madam Suicide, and Erica Jong Swings Her Purse

Susie Interviews:

"Sex Panics" with Debbie Nathan, who uncovered the Satanic Child Abuse frauds

Porn Pioneer Jamie Gillis, the legendary Shakespearean porn actor

Aging Fearlessly— Nothing Spared!— with Erica Jong, Fear of Flying

Breaking Caste and gender taboos in India's Sex scene, with Richard Connerney

Sex Blogging with Chelsea Girl, the stripper turned professor

Capitol Hill Sex with Jessica Cutler, who brought the whole GOP down

Reviewing the Sexual Revolution with legendary feminist Katha Pollitt

The DC Madam Is In the House - The Last Interview with Jeane Palfrey before her suicide

Transgender Outlaw Kate Bornstein

Sexologist Leonore Tiefer Gets Susie on the Couch and She Can Barely Stand It!

Penetrating Gay Porn with Jeffery Escoffier - Who Knows all the Secrets of Times Square

Season 7 also features:

48 episodes, 24 hours of audio, $21.95

Listen to all 45 episodes of the seventh season of In Bed with Susie Bright.

 

Susie and Listeners Also Dissect:

The Scrotum Scare 'Em

Vibrator Addicts... Really?

Favorite Body Parts are Surprising

The Truth about Female Desire Vs. The Hype

 

You can hear more, or purchase Season 7 here.

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Zombies, Esther Perel, Gina Trapani, and Laura Kipnis on Women, Sex, and Dirt

 

Susie Interviews:

Mating in Captivity author Esther Perel - No one but Esther is as honest about marriage sex fatigue

LifeHacker founder Gina Trapani - America's Favorite WebGeek has sex tips!

Erotic Photography with Phyllis Christopher - what women really do in front of her camera

Mark Frauenfelder and Boing Boing - Zombie Sex alert!

Laura Kipnis on The Female Thing: Dirt, Sex, Envy, Vulnerability

Season 6 also features:

44 episodes, 22 hours of audio, $21.95

Listen to all 44 episodes of the fifth season of In Bed with Susie Bright

 

Susie Also Dissects:

Psychedelic Sex, from the Timothy Leary's Best Friends

High Tech and Lo Fi Kink

Teen Sex Cults - Oh My!

Gamer's Guide to Girls

The Deepest Throat of All

 

Plus, Our Listener Questions:

Looking for One Chaste Man

How Much of a Man's Inches is Too Much?

The G-Spot Fraud Detection Squad!

 

You can hear more, or purchase Season 6 here.

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The "Christine O'Donnell Halloween Witch Contest"—is On!

 

    Are you ready to "seize power" in your Christine O'Donnell Halloween Costume this year? Let the games begin!

Update: We Have a Winner!

 

Our dear reader, Kay, has shown expertly, with her Before & After photos, how witches walk among us, turning into Tea Party candidates in the blink of a newt's eye! Our Peaked Hat is off to you, Miss Kay, and your devilish prizes are on the way!

 

    After the wild success of our Sarah Palin costume contest, it's only fair to give sassy brunettes another chance at the golden ring!

—Send me your photo of yourself in Witchy-Christie drag, by Oct 31st.

Include any caption, credit, or election promises you'd like to feature.

MAIL to: [email protected], with Witch-Christie in the Subject Line.

 

    Every little demon who enters will get a token of my affection, and a photo in this blog.

    The GRAND PRIZE winner (chosen by my Team of Vatican Tea Specialists) will receive:

Two free Audible.com audiobooks, a deck of my Dare Cards, and a sick excerpt from my upcoming memoir— something involving a quick descent to hell and damnation, you can be sure.

 

Are you eager to get going, but don't know where to start? Here's some inspiration:

 

1. Start with the black flat wig, or laquer your hair down with shoe polish:

2. Pearls are a Must:

3. Low-Cut, Yet Career-Minded LBT:

4. Tea-Party Boots To Stomp on Lamestream Media:

5. Masturbation Eliminator:

—And for your Family and Entourage:

 

Bozo Dad "Impersonator":

"Secret" Chinese TakeOver:

Meatball Hare Krishna "DropOut":

Assorted "Coven" Dabblers:

Here's the video you want to commit to memory:

 

 

What have you got to lose? Dark Shadows and Good Times Await! 

Remember, October 31st is the dropdead date. And if you need anything to inspire your most evil parody, there's always this.

 

Photo Credit: The little bit of screen shot black magic was created by Driftglass last night after I called upon him in the middle of the night and begged him to make my spell come true. Please blow up and disseminate everywhere.

 

 

Do Sex Gurus Have Regrets? Susie On Being "Wrong" in Bed... and Everywhere Else

Let's talk about "The Morning After," one of the iconic moments of personal wrongness.

 

For me, "the morning after" is a case of ambivalence, rather than flat-out regret.

I wouldn't have gone for it, if I wasn't aware of my self-interest. I'm always aware of my self-interest. The reasons that I shouldn't have done it, or I should have done it a little differently—all those "woulda, coulda, shoulda's"— can prey on your mind in a terrible way.

But I often think people are cruel to themselves about how they evaluate a sexual experience. Just because your mother might not have approved, or you're not going to get married—just because it doesn't meet someone else's standards—doesn't mean it didn't have its fabulous, transcendent, insightful, awesome moments.

So I guess I hold those "morning after" situations a little more gently than some. I might have wished things had gone differently, but to denounce it and say, "This should never have happened"—rarely have I gone there.

 

This is a short excerpt of an interview between Susie and Kathryn Schultz, the author of Being Wrong: Adventures in the Margin of Error, which is currently up on Kathryn's blog on Slate.com.  

It's the most interesting interview I've done in years, and I hope it gets your gears buzzing as much as it did mine!

 

Lucky you. Sex and relationships can be so complex and messy that I think a lot of people do wind up going there at some point in their lives—waking up after a sexual experience, literally or figuratively, and thinking, "Oh, man, that was the wrong decision."

I think the most painful situation in my own life was when I was much younger, a teenager, and I went to bed with a best friend's lover.

It was impulsive, and right in the middle of it, he started crying— and I was like, "Oh my God, this is terrible." I had great esteem for this couple; it wasn't like I was trying to break them up or hurt anyone. It was a messy, intoxicated, going-with-the-flow kind of moment.

When I think back on it, it seems like a foolish, impulsive, youthful moment. The ability to imagine the frustrations and hurt feelings that lie ahead—that comes so much easier when you're mature and you've been there, done that.

I didn't even have to get to 18 before I understood that the consequences of interrupting people's marriages are toxic. Just don't do it. Don't mess with it. You'll be sorry.

 

I'm interested in this idea of impulsiveness. In looking at why we get things wrong, I thought a lot about all the various ways we make decisions—by impulse, by consulting other people, by trying to assemble the evidence and conduct some kind of rational assessment. I assume that impulsivity governs sexual decisions more than other kinds, and I wonder if you think that makes us more or less likely to regret them. 

I don't know.There are so many appetites and pleasures and needs that we act on quickly, and yet there isn't a sense of social stigma and shame around them.

I had something to eat the other night that made me terribly sick to my stomach, and I suffered for it for a day afterward.

But no one's going to say, "Shame on you, Susie! How could you have done that?" Instead we laugh, we indulge. We're much more forgiving about food; you know, live and learn.

I've taken huge sexual risks and often it's turned out awesome. It's not like I regret my impulses or think, "Oh, if only I'd thought everything out and planned every move." People who think they can do that about sex are in for a serious surprise.

I was thinking about your somewhat funny identity as an expert in sex—which I say as someone who has a somewhat funny identity as an expert in wrongness—

Just don't let anyone call you a "wrongpert."

 

Ha. Why not? "Wrongpert." I love it. It's certainly no worse than "wrongologist," which I've been called so much that I gave in and started using it myself.

Agh. It's like this feminine diminutive that's the kiss of death. You'll notice that men who take an intellectual or professional interest in sexual education do not get called "sexperts," for the good reason that it makes you sound like an idiot.

I rue the day that my friends came up with that nickname. Someone just asked me the other day, "Were you the first sexpert?" And I'm like, "Oh, God, now we're going to do origin of the species?"

It has been impossible in this puritan country to be a scholar and an intellectual about sex. Do that at your peril. Look what happened to Kinsey; it wasn't all accolades and flowers. People who've taken sex seriously haven't gotten the same kind of recognition as, say, linguistics or mathematicians. It's an essential of human nature, but if people have a moral agenda against it, they will trivialize it. Like "sexpert."

 

The linguistics analogy is interesting. It's so acceptable to study language in order to better understand the human mind and the human animal. And yet somehow sex, which is just as intrinsic to who we are, doesn't have anything like that kind of highly respected, longstanding, institutionalized field of inquiry.

That's because the church has said that it is in charge of rigorous sexual analysis. The Vatican is the original sexpert....

 

READ THE REST of the interview here!... I know you'll love it.

Tell me your take on "where you went wrong and lived to admit it!"